Having been a provider who could not provide for my family, I am filled with infinite compassion for those in the same spot. Never in all of my education, experience, or being mentored did anyone draw this correlation between my self worth and the blessings of The Universe. Once I heard the correlation I knew what was missing.
One of my mentor's growing up was a rocket scientist. He introduced me to How to Win Friends and Influence People, Mega Memory, and other important tools for life. He taught me, "The books you read and the people you associate with will determine where you go in life." These all serve as expanders, however, I've learned that it is not completely true.
He may have imprinted on me, that being smart was enough to succeed and thrive. Looking back now, he was smart, dedicated, worked hard, but can see that his self worth may not have match his ambition. He had high ambition, worked hard to provide for his family, but was also passed over for promotions.
When confronting his boss about it, there was no clear answer. He met his goals and delivered projects on time. He did good work, but was stuck in playing by the wrong rules in the rat race. Self worth was the missing piece.
I do this for the countless friends and bread winners over the years who have struggled to provide for their family. They have the degrees and intellect to make an impact, but they were taught the wrong rules. I've taught my kids, "If you don't know the rules, you can't play the game." Once my kids began to understand the rules, the level of their game play shifted dramatically.
If you don't know the rules, you can't play the game.
Through society and the education system we are taught, knowledge is the solution. Now, don't get me wrong, I am passionate about learning, however, it is still missing the dimension of self worth and having God and The Universe bless your abilities. Many successful people use this regardless of whether they know why or how it benefits them.
When a provider is unable to really provide for his family, it impacts more than just money. It impacts their marriage, how they imprint on their children. Being very open, at my lowest point, my wife could not trust my ability to be a provider for our family. I had failed so many times, how could she trust my ability? The simple answer was, she couldn't.
For spouses everywhere, they have linked their life and dependency upon the bread winner to provide. Failure to provide leads to frustration, distrust, questioning if they made the right choice. Everyone is beholden to the rules regardless of whether you understand them or not. Read more...